This time not being silly ,got something to ask.

[pilotsnoopy]

Originally Posted by Summer

To be fair jess1, when you first signed up in this forum you did post some provocative avatars... and I think that's what led people to a certain conclusion about you. I'm not saying that it's wrong, or right. Everyone, both guys and girls, has a right to freedom of expression without judgement. However, this is how the world works at this point - no doubt it's the inside that counts, but it's the outside that makes the first impression.

Take care girl.

freedom of expression without judgement comes with responsibilities. the person expressing may be sincere and straightforward, he she should still discern the target audience the best he she can do or risk his her comments being taken out of context and potentially putting oneself and close ones into trouble.

[phil]

Ok everyone listen to me

Jess is a cool person. She seems to be confused by all the horsins that have been approaching her for here i bet. Further to that, I know of other girls that come here and the same thing happened to them and they never came back. BMW-SG is well known as horsin capital. I even know that guys wont come in here as they think it is sick what happens.

its ok for all of us that know each other personally and joke around, I find it highly amusing and often LOL in the office. But to "outsiders" or newbies, it can be very difficult to mingle in with us, only the brave and/or bullish survive.
I dont give a shit who you are, who you think you are and how you talk to other forummers, if you are straight talking or whatever. Look at it from a ladies POV, it could possibly be quite aa task to get used to us. Ive met Jess and find her a lovely person, i dont give a shit she is pretty or not, i think she is brave to try and hang out with us, sonsidering how we behave!!!!

ANDDDDDDD, she actually does drive a BMW and wants to learn about her car, wants to mod it and have guidance form us. IMAGINE that, a girl in here that drives a BMW and is trying to have guidance form, wait a sec, a BMW forum.

There, thats my soapbox ramble for the day

Jess, AKM?

[Summer]

Originally Posted by pilotsnoopy

freedom of expression without judgement comes with responsibilities. the person expressing may be sincere and straightforward, he she should still discern the target audience the best he she can do or risk his her comments being taken out of context and potentially putting oneself and close ones into trouble.

Agree, snoopy. At the end of the day, we are all here to look out for and look after one another.

[heyjudd]

Originally Posted by phil

Ok everyone listen to me

Jess is a cool person. She seems to be confused by all the horsins that have been approaching her for here i bet. Further to that, I know of other girls that come here and the same thing happened to them and they never came back. BMW-SG is well known as horsin capital. I even know that guys wont come in here as they think it is sick what happens.

its ok for all of us that know each other personally and joke around, I find it highly amusing and often LOL in the office. But to "outsiders" or newbies, it can be very difficult to mingle in with us, only the brave and/or bullish survive.
I dont give a shit who you are, who you think you are and how you talk to other forummers, if you are straight talking or whatever. Look at it from a ladies POV, it could possibly be quite aa task to get used to us. Ive met Jess and find her a lovely person, i dont give a shit she is pretty or not, i think she is brave to try and hang out with us, sonsidering how we behave!!!!

ANDDDDDDD, she actually does drive a BMW and wants to learn about her car, wants to mod it and have guidance form us. IMAGINE that, a girl in here that drives a BMW and is trying to have guidance form, wait a sec, a BMW forum.

There, thats my soapbox ramble for the day

Jess, AKM?

waaaaaa.......Phil is intense today.....ppl here all having MLC?
relax lah.....nt as if anyone did anything....she is in the "in" group wat....think summer just want to state her view and I agree with her.

[jess1]

Originally Posted by Summer

To be fair jess1, when you first signed up in this forum you did post some provocative avatars... and I think that's what led people to a certain conclusion about you. I'm not saying that it's wrong, or right. Everyone, both guys and girls, has a right to freedom of expression without judgement. However, this is how the world works at this point - no doubt it's the inside that counts, but it's the outside that makes the first impression.

Take care girl.

Come on la i post those avatars you think is provocative??? I think is art !!!!!!!

Anyway My point is ....please show respect to women here that all ...ok ...is that fair enough If NOT I wont be very nice.

Dont tell me you see a woman dress very sexy ,very short skirt , etc you think you can do anything you like with her??? Of cause in the first place women shouldnt wear too reveling.

[kenntona]

Originally Posted by asther04

So, as gals ourselves, as long as we carry ourselves properly & draw a line when we need to, then i'm sure platonic frenships r possible. Sometimes we let ourselves get too comfortable with a male fren & in turn mislead them. We then say it's not possible to b frens with a guy? Tat's unfair to them as well. But if we can draw the line, a wonderful frenship can develope. It's nice to have a male fren, like a brother to "take care" of us. I have a few very close guy frens & it has been great for many years now. Not tat we have not been attracted to each other at one time or another, but we chose to stay as frens & now we r happy the way it is.

Originally Posted by asther04

So is it possible? I think it is...........

Originally Posted by chinnie86

... yupz, most impt is tt we know our limits..

The limits were never there, if it were to be a truly platonic relationship. Brothers can hug sisters, good friends hug one another. So if you impose a certain physical limits on your male friends, you know your emotional defenses are putting a barrier to the belief in the purest form of platonic relationships. Then it can never be a possibilities of a true friendships between friends.

The other factor is your other halves. Tolerance and sensitivity, how is anyone gonna be completely doubt-free when his or her other half is constantly hanging out with someone of the opposite sex? Can you allow your BFs or your hubbies to go for a diving trip with his best friend, who happens to be a gal? You actually trust them sleeping in the same room?

Come on, face the truth..... tell me about this word TRUST......

Originally Posted by edlms

asther and chinnie,

Originally Posted by edlms

don't kid yourselves... the guys want to get into your pants - just no chance, yet, so they play "friends" until one day you break off/get drunk... unless they're gay.

really...
don't believe? just try to show some interest and see how the guy responds...

cheers

Yes, Ed, horsinetics at work. Perhaps can show them the Newton's theories of cheehongism.....

Originally Posted by Terry

guys are nice in front of you..you'll never know that they are fantasising about you every night..

Gals tends to look at personalities of guys when they befriend them. They forgot character is more important for true friendship - "Oh he is so funny !!!" ("Yeah, silly, he is a colourful wolf !!!") Between guys, it is usually characters. No charm involved - assholes can hang around with assholes for life....... very different takes here.

This is best summed up by Spice Gals's song Wannabe. The lyrics read.....

If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends,
Make it last forever friendship never ends.


Now, for the guys, the song should be Loverboy by Billy Ocean.....

Want to whisper
sweet and tender
in your ear.
Can't stand the
thought of you
with somebody
else
Got to have your love
got to have it
all to myself

[jess1]

Originally Posted by phil

Ok everyone listen to me

Jess is a cool person. She seems to be confused by all the horsins that have been approaching her for here i bet. Further to that, I know of other girls that come here and the same thing happened to them and they never came back. BMW-SG is well known as horsin capital. I even know that guys wont come in here as they think it is sick what happens.

its ok for all of us that know each other personally and joke around, I find it highly amusing and often LOL in the office. But to "outsiders" or newbies, it can be very difficult to mingle in with us, only the brave and/or bullish survive.
I dont give a shit who you are, who you think you are and how you talk to other forummers, if you are straight talking or whatever. Look at it from a ladies POV, it could possibly be quite aa task to get used to us. Ive met Jess and find her a lovely person, i dont give a shit she is pretty or not, i think she is brave to try and hang out with us, sonsidering how we behave!!!!

ANDDDDDDD, she actually does drive a BMW and wants to learn about her car, wants to mod it and have guidance form us. IMAGINE that, a girl in here that drives a BMW and is trying to have guidance form, wait a sec, a BMW forum.

There, thats my soapbox ramble for the day

Jess, AKM?

You are one cool guy !!!! You said it all. tx. All we need is some respect right)

[phil]

I also dress sexy, always getting fondled by you gals, can stop it please, i have feelings you know

[Mockngbrd]

Originally Posted by phil

I also dress sexy, always getting fondled by you gals, can stop it please, i have feelings you know

no wonder ang mor chick on bike check u out..

but on ur earlier post, yea... i agree with u...

[heyjudd]

Respect is to be earned....not given.....
how I dress or what I do I ans to only 1 person....myself....I will clearly state my rules and if ppl try to be funny.....I make sure I sharpen my cigar cutter......hahaha