This time not being silly ,got something to ask.

[centurion]

proof of the ladder theory.

However the girls must consider: you dun wanna have sex, and you know it, but you also know the guy wanna have sex.

Then the friendship thing is a farce, no? Not really a true friendship. You consciously keeping him at arms length (alternate ladder) but he all the time waiting for a chance, and you know it.

Carrying this on is like voluntary `leading on' right?

[edlms]

Originally Posted by asther04

Haha edlms,
Tat's wat most ppl say... But i dare say i've bin thru all those with all my guy frens & we're still frens. Done the "got drunk", "broke up with bf" etc... They simply stood by me.
Not tat i dun agree w u completely, like i said, at one point or another, there's bound to b some form of attraction, it's a matter whether we took a step back & thought of the consequences then.
& asking us to "test" is asking for trouble... I know 99% of the guys out der will "respond" if tested. Tat's wat i'm getting at. We as gals, draw the line & dun throw temptations, the frenship is then possible.

how can be true friendship if the guy is "biding his time" and the girl is "drawing the line"?
isn't friendship the basis of a good relationship?

agree with cent...

isn't it natural to want to be physically close to someone you connect with?
i'll be the first to admit that i'll sleep with many of my female "platonic" friends if they gave me the chance... (but only the hot ones...)

cheers

[///M3]

Originally Posted by phil

OLL, can share room, no worries. Spooning is manly when cold, but I cant be your fark buddy, shy

that sounds damn wrong.

Originally Posted by centurion

spooning is NEVER MANLY Phil. I'm shocked. My god. You even care to mention spooning between men .....

+1

Originally Posted by edlms

i've got many many platonic female friends...

that i haven't screwed...






yet....

cheers

Originally Posted by edlms

asther and chinnie,
don't kid yourselves... the guys want to get into your pants - just no chance, yet, so they play "friends" until one day you break off/get drunk... unless they're gay.

really...
don't believe? just try to show some interest and see how the guy responds...

cheers

that is a wrong move.. dont even try..

[hitmee]

Originally Posted by chinnie86

i agree..
i've 2 guy friends tt i hang out with most of my time in sch.. yet we remain simply as friends n we r really happy with e status quo... yupz, most impt is tt we know our limits..

sch and offices are diff environments completely.
reputation at stake. too high a stake if make the wrong move.

i agree with edwin. they dare not rather than dun want.

[Terry]

Originally Posted by edlms

asther and chinnie,
don't kid yourselves... the guys want to get into your pants - just no chance, yet, so they play "friends" until one day you break off/get drunk... unless they're gay.

really...
don't believe? just try to show some interest and see how the guy responds...

cheers

Originally Posted by edlms

how can be true friendship if the guy is "biding his time" and the girl is "drawing the line"?
isn't friendship the basis of a good relationship?

agree with cent...

isn't it natural to want to be physically close to someone you connect with?
i'll be the first to admit that i'll sleep with many of my female "platonic" friends if they gave me the chance... (but only the hot ones...)

cheers

imho...these 2 post sums it all...

guys biding his time and girls drawing the line..very very true...

guys are nice in front of you..you'll never know that they are fantasising about you every night...

show interest and see how they act.... lol ed... very very true...

[Terry]

Originally Posted by asther04

Funny thread...
It's jus a discussion, dun get too serious...
Guys r known to "lust" afta almost any gals, this is a known fact. So, as gals ourselves, as long as we carry ourselves properly & draw a line when we need to, then i'm sure platonic frenships r possible. Sometimes we let ourselves get too comfortable with a male fren & in turn mislead them. We then say it's not possible to b frens with a guy? Tat's unfair to them as well. But if we can draw the line, a wonderful frenship can develope. It's nice to have a male fren, like a brother to "take care" of us. I have a few very close guy frens & it has been great for many years now. Not tat we have not been attracted to each other at one time or another, but we chose to stay as frens & now we r happy the way it is.
So is it possible? I think it is...........

to be the big brother only...possible if you are not so hot....

to be the big brother only...also possible if you are very hot... but thats not all..if got the chance guys will still want to get into your pants...

its just guys...biologically programmed... unless homo... but the same rule still apply for gay men too...

Originally Posted by chinnie86

i agree..
i've 2 guy friends tt i hang out with most of my time in sch.. yet we remain simply as friends n we r really happy with e status quo... yupz, most impt is tt we know our limits..

thats because of what you see... like what ed said earlier...you tried to draw the line... fair enough..but you will never know what the guy is saying or thinking behind you...not everything seems like what u see in real life...for guys at least...

give hints..show interest...make the 1st move...you will be surprised by the 2nd 3rd and subsequent move made by the guy... beyond your wildest dream...

[pilotsnoopy]

Originally Posted by centurion

Carrying this on is like voluntary `leading on' right?

lol...kekekekkeke

[marklee]

Originally Posted by chinnie86

i agree..
i've 2 guy friends tt i hang out with most of my time in sch.. yet we remain simply as friends n we r really happy with e status quo... yupz, most impt is tt we know our limits..

School? I've personally know a few school mates who 2-3 years ago have said exactly the same thing you are saying. Now they all become couples already...or got together and broke off already.

[Summer]

Originally Posted by jess1

yes there`are some ppl here gave me the impressions. So they have pressed the wrong "button."

Originally Posted by asther04

We as gals, draw the line & dun throw temptations, the frenship is then possible.

To be fair jess1, when you first signed up in this forum you did post some provocative avatars... and I think that's what led people to a certain conclusion about you. I'm not saying that it's wrong, or right. Everyone, both guys and girls, has a right to freedom of expression without judgement. However, this is how the world works at this point - no doubt it's the inside that counts, but it's the outside that makes the first impression.

Take care girl.

[chinnie86]

Originally Posted by marklee

School? I've personally know a few school mates who 2-3 years ago have said exactly the same thing you are saying. Now they all become couples already...or got together and broke off already.

yeah.. do agree... got some guys who used to like me, but after i made it clear to them.. we became really good friends instead.. everything takes 2 hands to clap.. if e girl kinda 'lead' the guy on... e guy will definitely respond.. but if the girl is firm on her stand, the guy will more likely ( and hopefully) back off..